Finding a Mate in Modern Society

There are three truths which all people today need to realize. First, society is changing rapidly. This involves not only changes in the way we live, but also in the very ideals or values which govern our thinking. Second, individuals differ. They differ in more significant ways than ever before. They differ to such an extent that in many spheres of life the concept of "normality" has become practically meaningless. Third, the conflicts and problems with which modern life seems to surround us cannot be blamed upon individuals.

Our society is full of conflicts and inconsistencies. It is time we stopped talking about the mentally sick individuals who cannot adjust themselves to society. Perhaps it is society itself which is the patient.

The modern youth must admit to himself that he is merely making the best possible adjustment under existing conditions; that this is essentially experimental and subject to change. He must learn to throw off that paralyzing sense of guilt and of failure which so many people continue to feel, even after they have literally done their best. He must learn to manage his life as he plays a game, striving always for excellence and success, but taking his failures humorously and courageously. Certainly we need this kind of "maturity"; but let us not think of it as something which comes automatically with natural growth and years; it is a matter of personal temperament plus training.

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